Dear Daughter,
Your wedding day will soon be upon us. It will be a day filled with much joy and excitement. A day where family and friends will gather together to watch you walk down the aisle on your dad’s arm to your soon to be husband. A day that will be filled with lots of wonderful memories to look back on.
I wanted to tell you how proud I am of you face to face, but I quickly realized all I would do is cry. So I decided instead to write you this letter. I can remember so clearly as if it was yesterday the morning you were born. I waited patiently for the nurse to gently hand you to me as she told me I had a baby girl. Oh, how happy I was to find out I had a baby girl! From the moment she put you in my arms until this day I have loved you beyond words. I was so nervous when you were first born. I was scared I would somehow do something wrong. Until one day I was given some advice. I was told to have fun with you and everything else would fall into place. I took that advice and I did have fun with you.
I had the joy of watching you crawl for the first time and I had the joy of watching you take your first step. I held you in my arms when your first tooth was coming in and you weren’t feeling good from it. I held you as often as I could for as long as I could. I knew one day you wouldn’t want to be held anymore. I knew you would want to spread your wings and see how far you could go. So I held you for as long as I could while I could.
I remember when you were little we would watch Winnie the Pooh together along with Arthur, Mulan and all those other Disney Princesses. I may have sometimes acted like I didn’t want to watch the princesses with you, but the truth is I had fun sitting there with you watching them. Eventually you became a teenager and we found mocha muffins at PriceChopper. It became this thing with us, whenever we went to that store we bought two mocha muffins, one for each of us. We enjoyed eating them together when we got home. Usually while we watched some TV.
Before I knew it you were graduating from High School and heading off to College. That was hard for me. I didn’t want to show it, but boy was that hard for me. The first time your dad and I dropped you off for your first year I cried on the way home. I did eventually get used to you being away from home, but I always loved it when you came back.
Well now you’re getting married and you won’t be coming back home. You will have the joy of living with your husband instead. I know we will still get to see each other. And I know things will be different, but you will always be my baby girl. I want you to know how proud I am of you and all you have accomplished. I want you to know how much I love you. I want you to know I think, no I know you will be a great wife. And I know you will make a great mom one day too.
I also want you to remember your wedding vows every day. I want you to remember that marriage is an equal partnership. You both need to give one hundred percent. Marriage isn’t 50%/50% it’s 100%/100% never forget that. Remember to love your husband and cherish him. Remember to stay by his side in good times and in bad times, in sickness and in health. Sweetie, I can promise there will be good times as well as bad times. And there will be sickness in between the health. Be there for each other. Lean on each other. Talk with each other. Most importantly keep your eyes focused on God together during your marriage. Remember to pray with each other. Remember to read your Bible together. When the two of you get into a fight make sure you talk it out completely. And ALWAYS make sure you tell each other how much you love one another after that fight. DON’T walk away mad at each other.
On your wedding day your fiancee will become your husband. After your married he will become not only your husband, he will become your best friend. The person you rely on for everything. And eventually you will both know each other better then anyone else will know you.
Love Always,
Mom